To my future children,
There are so many things I hope to be for you, a wonderful mother, a shoulder to cry on and someone you aren't afraid to admit mistakes to and I will teach you how to learn from them. I know I will do what it takes to try and keep you safe but as you grow up and start to experience the world, I won't be there by your side every second to protect you. What I can do is give you advice, some being from my own experiences of the world going from a teenager to a young adult in my 20's, something I hope you will take with you as you go through life.
To start, school is probably going to feel like it's never ending, you are going to be counting the days till summer. All I can tell you is to enjoy it, join all the sports teams, the academic after school activities. Have fun being a kid while you can because once you graduate high school and college, the real world kicks in and it's a lot harder than you realize.
As new generations come into the world, everyone feels they're entitled to more than they deserve. Whether it's more money at work, higher ranked position or more materialistic items at home. Pay your dues, we all started from somewhere before we get to where we want to be and money doesn't buy happiness, you will learn that family and memories you can create is all you need.
When you start to date, have respect for yourself, don't force yourself into anything. If you feel uncomfortable about something, walk away. You dating the popular girl or sleeping with the captain of the hockey team to look cool isn't. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and the right person will know how to do that, whether you find that person in high school or in your 20's or 30's. Don't be discouraged or give up, you don't always find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with right away.
Be yourself. Don't be afraid to be different. I have always believed that the world would be boring if we were all the same so embrace your individuality. You won't get along with everybody, you aren't going to please them nor is it your duty to worry about what they think. If you are tall or short, a little bigger or a little thinner, love yourself.
Models on magazine covers don't usually look like that in real life. Everyone has imperfections on their body but with some good lighting and photoshop it can change someone completely. So don't get down on the fact that you have a few pimples or you have a little cellulite on your legs, because I can guarantee that you're not the only one. As a kid, I had trouble with depression, I usually bottled it up and never expressed my feelings to anyone because of the stigma around mental illness. I don't want you to go through that, if you're feeling a certain way, know that there is always someone you can count on to be there for you, even if it is your mother.
I don't know what social media or the internet will develop into when you start to use it, Will Instagram still be a thing? Will Facebook continue to be a place to share with friends and family? All I can tell you is that they're all one big highlight reel of someone's life, nobody's perfect like they make themselves out to be on the internet. Don't let it consume you, it doesn't matter how many followers you have or how many likes a selfie you took got. The internet has turned into a place where people feel the need for acceptance from complete strangers.
So go out and explore. Technology is holding people back from looking around and appreciating the beautiful planet we live on. Go hiking up a mountain, swimming in the lake, see the northern lights and stars, travel the world. Unplug yourself, even if it's only for a little while. You'll be amazed at what's out there.
Most importantly treat everyone with love and kindness. There is a lot of hate in this world, a lot of evil, I can only dream of a day where we will wake up and not have to hear of another terrorist attack. If you believe in a god or not, are light skinned or dark skinned, we are all human, we all deserve love, happiness and acceptance. The same saying has been around forever, treat others how you wish to be treated and growing up you will learn this.
I hope when you're old enough to read this you can take these words with you, maybe even pass it on to your own children someday. Spread positivity and know that as I write this, I do not know you just yet, but you are going to be so loved and adored.
With all my love, Mum XO